What I Wish Every Young Pitcher Believed About Herself (And What I Hope Her Parents Remember Too)

Hey there, friend!

If I could sit down with every young pitcher—and her parents—this is the conversation I’d want to have.

Because I know how easy it is to get caught up in stats, speed, strike percentages, and comparisons…

And I know how quickly a pitcher can start to believe that her value depends on how many opportunities she gets to pitch—or how well she performed in her last game.

But here’s what I wish every pitcher believed about herself:

👉 That her worth isn’t tied to her ERA, how hard she throws, or whether she gave up a walk-off hit.
👉 That a “bad game” doesn’t mean she’s a “bad pitcher”—it’s an opportunity to learn and grow.
👉 That confidence isn’t something you’re either born with or not—it’s something you build through work, reflection, and repetition.
👉 That struggling doesn’t mean she’s failing. We often learn the most during times of adversity.
👉 That she doesn’t have to be perfect to be a great leader for her team.
👉 That even the hard days—the frustrating ones—are shaping her into someone tougher, stronger, and more resilient.
👉 And that if she believes in herself and is willing to do the work, NO ONE ELSE gets to tell her what she can or can’t accomplish!

And to the parents reading this: I SEE YOU!

You’re doing your best to support your daughter in a role that’s both incredibly rewarding and incredibly hard. You want her to succeed, to feel confident, to love leading her team. You want her to believe in herself.

And sometimes… it’s hard to know what to say or how to help—especially when she’s doubting herself or pushing through tough moments.

So here’s what I want you to know:

👉 Keep showing up. Even when she acts like she doesn’t care that you’re there—she does.
👉 Keep reminding her that who she is matters more than what she does.
👉 Always celebrate her effort more than the outcome.
👉 And never underestimate the impact of a calm, steady voice when the game doesn’t go her way.

She’ll take her cues from you.

If you can stay grounded when she’s shaken, she’ll learn to do the same.
If you can trust the process, she’ll be more likely to stick with it.
If you can believe in her—especially when she’s struggling to believe in herself—she’ll remember that.

And one day, when she looks back on her pitching journey, she won’t just remember the shutouts or the strikeouts.

She’ll remember how you helped her become someone she’s proud of.

That’s the win that matters most.

—Myndie 💛